After shifting the way you see the world with gratitude and then honoring your feelings by venting properly, Rhonda suggests this exercise to change the way you see yourself:


“Acknowledgement is the biggest confidence booster,” she notes, “but it isn’t about patting yourself on the back for a job well done or giving yourself credit when everything is perfect. Rather, it’s the number-one tool to bolster your self-confidence by giving yourself a high-five for every little, tiny step forward.”

Here’s how (the process is a lot like expressing gratitude):

  • Focus on any new insights, actions, and thoughts you have regarding yourself.
  • Use the present tense: “Today I acknowledge myself for …”
  • Frame your acknowledgement as a positive—eliminate the word “not.”
  • Be specific.
  • Expressing five acknowledgements a day is optimal.
  • Write them down.
  • Be aware of shifts in your experience (thoughts, feelings, etc.).

Exercises like these begin to help us live in freedom instead of fear, says Rhonda. While fear has us shaming ourselves, blaming others, focusing on “should,” and seeking guaranteed results in guaranteed time frames, living in freedom “gently nudges you towards your destiny,” Rhonda insists.

“When you live in freedom, you live in the present. You’re free to forgive the past and trust the future. You don’t compare, or believe you have all the time in the world. You make decisions based on intuition, on trusting your knowledge and experience. Remember, fearlessness isn’t about jumping out of a plane. It’s about jumping into your life—fully and completely.”

Originally published by Kripalu Center for Yoga & Health